Words for the Soul: Deep Reflections on Humanity & Spirituality
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What Your Soul Returns To
You’re searching for a moment of connection, a way to make sense of your inner world or your life. Sometimes, your thoughts feel like a storm of questions with no answers - but here, we explore them together.
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What If the Answers Were Already Inside You?
The Inner Sanctum is where deep questions meet honest reflections - a space to explore identity, purpose, and the messy beauty of being human.
Why Do We Struggle to Listen to Ourselves?
The world is a very noisy place and there is a lot of expectation placed on you from the world around you and yourself. Your own voice often gets drowned out. But deep down, you already have the answers you seek - you just need a place to hear them.
How Do You Find Meaning When Everything Feels Chaotic?
Meaning and purpose are complicated. This is mainly because you only ascribe them to an event after the fact, retrospectively. Meaning also has the ability to change over time, as pain we endured may initially feel like it means bad things, and then later we come to understand that it is evidence of our resilience. Finding meaning is not just about doing things; it is about the stories we tell about the things that happen in our lives. The feelings of meaningfulness and purposefulness are our hope that what is happening now will come to have meaning to us in the future, which we cannot comprehend, as we cannot perfectly see the future. When everything feels chaotic, this dynamic is even harder. In chaos, we need to try to reinforce this idea that life happens due to factors outside of our control and that although it feels bad, crappy, shit, abysmal right now, we can try as best we can to set up the story so it becomes valuable to us in the future, rather than becoming dead weight. Intellectualising it is very different from living it emotionally and physically, but by becoming more aware of the pattern, we can have more control over how we react, thus creating more beneficial narratives out of all events in our life, good or bad.
What If You’re Asking the Wrong Questions?
There are no wrong questions. As glib as that might sound, there are no "stupid" questions either. We all have varying levels of understanding of the things we go through because we come from different households, countries, demographics, and socioeconomic statuses. All questions hold within them new ways of looking at the world. Reflection, and questions directed inward, are about expanding your possibilities - not limiting them - understanding your vulnerabilities and honouring them, and uncovering the world around you. Therefore, the only wrong questions are the ones not asked and explored. It can be hard to give yourself that permission, but in time, the more you try, the more fascinated you become with the world around you.
Why Does It Feel Like You Can’t Hear Your Own Voice?
It is likely because your voice is softer and gentler than the cacophony around you. When your thoughts and feelings are vocalised, they feel dangerous or unimportant. People who are loud and obnoxious can easily drown out the voices around them with their self-centredness, but your voice feels like it cannot be heard. This is often a sign that you care about others over yourself, that inward reflection is a painful endeavour you are avoiding because you have come to believe that your voice is less important than the voices around you.
It makes sense - a world where people growl at your ideas, use your words against you, and put themselves above you and others does not make for a safe environment. Your voice is important and, importantly, nobody can actually take it from you. Clandestinely and secretly, start learning how to label your feelings, capture the drama of your emotions—reflecting and trying to understand what you actually need- and talk softly to yourself as if you are speaking to a scared child.
Over time, other people's voices will matter less, although they will still be hurtful and present. The key to this is that you will start to hear yourself - the monologue in your head - not as a dangerous enemy or an annoyance, but as a piece of you that appreciates who you are - because otherwise, it wouldn’t exist. If you are having trouble grasping this concept, that makes sense. This particular skill takes time and is uniquely challenging to every person’s life.
Try finding pieces of work that resonate with your feelings, that make you say, “This makes me feel safe,” and, over time, you will begin to hear yourself.
How Do You Find Meaning When Everything Feels Uncertain?
Meaning is something we define about the past. When we think about future meaning, it is really a wish we have about things that will come to pass for us. In times of uncertainty, when the future feels uncertain - especially if the past has been unkind to us - it can feel like nothing will get better. In these moments, it is important to find the intangible opportunity and learnings that lie within our current situation and the things that we have faced like this in the past. By seizing these learnings and intangible opportunities, we recover some agency over the situation; it provides us with something to do that is not worrying about what comes next. By asking better questions of ourselves and seeking answers about who we are in these moments, we can find a path - even a dangerous one - forward.
What If You Feel Disconnected from Yourself?
When you examine disconnection, you come to find that it means you feel lost, lacking control or autonomy, or alone. If this is you, this makes sense, and it is believable. Life is one of those things that humankind does not do if they are cut off from others, but the less talked about issue is when we cut ourselves off from our own feelings. Naturally, you will feel alienated and sad, maybe even angry, but mostly out of control and confused about what comes next.
I read a great book about being lost; my favourite quote was, "I'm not lost, I'm right here." In this simple quote, you can come to realise that the disconnection you feel from yourself is likely due to avoiding something incredibly painful. You are no alien - quite the opposite. Your humanity makes you hurt over things and try to protect yourself in ways that you think are best.
Reconnection - building a bridge - is a slow process of self-reflection and trying to get to know the injured person inside you, the one in pain. Envisioning them as a child can be helpful, but any image of someone in need of a loving or courageous conversation is the right idea.
Self-reflection is the art of asking, with care and the right weight, questions to slowly unravel the complex web of pain and hurt around which we have attempted to distance ourselves. Slowly, and eventually, the bridges become mended - not the same as the old ones, but beautifully different, shaped to withstand and to allow, mindfully, the crossing. Over time - yes, sometimes years - you can come to a place of calm and appreciation for all that hurt you and all that pushed you apart from yourself.
If this doesn't quite make sense now, not to worry—hopefully, one day, the words will find you, and the journey can begin.
Why Is It So Hard to Trust Your Own Intuition?
What we call our intuition is what has been coined "System 1 thinking" by Nobel laureate Daniel Kahneman. This is a fast and automatic response to stimulus, which often happens as our default reaction to something that happens in the world. System 1 thinking, or intuition, is the result of a lifetime of conditioning - certain circumstances, experiences, and results forming our beliefs about cause and effect.
For instance, if you have lived a life where you have been put in danger, you might have a heightened awareness in regular situations that are primed to make you more likely to see the patterns as something you have experienced before. Another example, in the positive, might be expertise - you are an engineer who has worked on bridges your whole life and their structural design. When you simply look at a bridge, you can get a sense of whether or not it is structurally sound, even before testing anything, because you have built a lot of automatic pattern recognition into your day-to-day.
It is hard to trust this system because it is very easy to bias. If you have always done something one way, but that way is wrong, flawed, or no longer relevant, you still use these conditions to judge situations, making your decision-making process outdated. This is why self-reflection is a powerful tool; it allows you to observe, after the fact, moments where your expectations did not meet reality and how your System 1/intuition might be misaligned or poorly calibrated. Through review, these things can be improved bit by bit.
Am I Broken?
We often see ourselves as fractured, as if the hardships we’ve endured have left us in pieces. But what if you were never broken - only reshaped? What if every wound was a doorway to a more whole version of yourself?
There is a tendency for us to talk to ourselves as though we "should" have perfect tools. But, in reality, we don't - in many cases, they have been inherited from our forebears. I like to see this notion differently. I like to talk to myself - my deepest, truest, and most vulnerable self - as a child. I do not mean in the sense of talking down to someone, but rather as a scared and vulnerable person who is trying to make sense of the world, unsure why things are happening.
Children need love, understanding, and gentle lessons that meet them where they are. By doing this, they feel safe and trusted to make the mistakes that life will inevitably put in their way. It is an allowance to acknowledge their overwhelm and help them move through it.
The beauty is that you spend time talking to them as if they are someone else, only to realise - like Scooby-Doo - that it was you behind the mask all along.
Explore Deep Reflections & Honest Conversations
The Inner Sanctum is where I talk to myself. These are authentic and real conversations that I have with myself about the things going on in my own life. They are not generated or curated for you; they are the truthful and real parts of me, offered freely to you. They are designed to help you feel connected with someone and seen in your own place—wherever that might be. You could start with some about:
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