Resonating Through Shared Humanity: To My Troubled Adonis

Inner Sanctum

23 Nov

This is where the magic happens. Or at least the awkward self-reflection.

For those yearning to feel seen, whole, and enough.

Dear Adonis, the question is not "are or aren't you enough," but instead, "how would you like to be today? How would you like to show up? What is your deepest aspiration, and how will you marry what is possible with the aspirations of the impossible?" Enoughness is not a "state that is bestowed"; it is a deep understanding that who you are today is older and wiser than the day before. It is a beautiful suffering of never again—a deep stillness of knowing this moment will never be the same as the next, and an appreciation of both what it is and its passing. Therefore, it is inaccurate to think you will never be "enough," as it is you in your entirety: all your hobbies, your values, your passions, the people who YOU love. It is not dependent on anyone else gaining value from you—that is a "them problem."

Feeling this way is hard because what others have told us we should value about ourselves does not mirror the truth of how and why WE feel enough. Dear Adonis, you are the man of men in your own image—not in the image of another, because in that image, you will never be enough. Dear Adonis, please be Adonis and not Hades or Zeus or anyone else, save yourself. This does not mean you break morals and hurt others because you feel like it; an accountable life to those around you is reflected in how you would wish to be treated as the Adonis you are.

You want women in your bed, a comfortable life, and entertainment? Treat others to this as though they are you—the enoughness you reflect on others is the enoughness you feel in yourself. Therefore, when you are in the throes of melancholy and despair that you are not appreciated, respected, or seen—first see others, respect others, and appreciate them. It is not for self-gratification but to reflect how "enough" you are. Violence and hoarding are not enough—you cannot gift violence unless it is done to the self, and even then, it is done in spite or in a feeling that you are not enough, Adonis, for this world.

So give, give the offer of your Adonis, the very essence of you, to this world not with malice or ignorance but with a profound sense of oneness. My most loved Adonis—be the man that shows all others they too can be their own person, as Adonis is himself.

“Enoughness is not a 'state that is bestowed'; it is a deep understanding that who you are today is older and wiser than the day before. It is a beautiful suffering of never again—a deep stillness of knowing this moment will never be the same as the next, and an appreciation of both what it is and its passing.”